Are You A Thief-Coach? Agile Coaching By Invitation & Not-Safe-To-Fail Situations

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Don’t do this to your teams.

Remember when you were a kid, and were in the middle of doing something you were excited about, and an adult came along to tell you what you should do next?

Remember how deflating and frustrating that felt?

Coaches, this is what happens to teams and people when you offer help they haven’t asked for: You are stealing from them. You are a thief-coach.
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An Emotional Intelligence Retrospective for the New Year

perplexed bird
This bird is perplexed. Or just fabulous.

Something about the new year always makes me think of retrospectives. After all, what better time to have a personal retrospective than when everyone is thinking about a resolution – aka an improvement – for the new year? Yeah, okay, so most of the time I was sitting on my couch watching old IT Crowd episodes and eating cheese, but this holiday season I was also thinking about deeply profound things like “how do I know that I helped people this year?” and coming up with things that I wanted to try out in the year ahead.

It occurred to me that my biggest challenges and biggest accomplishments for the year were rooted in emotional intelligence. And that made me remember one of my favorite days from 2015: A retrospective I created and dubbed the EI retro. My fellow agile coaches were kind enough to let me try it out on them, and it went a little something like this:Read More »

The Accomplishment Partnership Retrospective

Raccoons. Organized. With Light Sabers.
Raccoons. Organized. With lightsabers.

Recently I was going through old emails to review some key events that occurred on one of my projects from a few years ago (if you’ve never done this, try it – it was like finding a treasure chest of real-life lessons that were amazing to recall!). I came across a special retrospective exercise that I had designed just for my team at the time, which I dubbed the Accomplishment Partnership Retro. It’s great to have a team that trusts you enough to help them through this, because the exercise can be challenging for teams who are uncomfortable with being vulnerable with each other – but the gains are tremendous. Here’s the gist:

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